There are three kinds of sex. There is mundane sex. There is profane sex. And there is profound sex. The kind of sex most people have in their bedrooms with the lights out is mundane. The kind of sex many others have in a variety of ways and places is profane. Very few people have experienced sex of the profound variety. But the heart inherently knows it's possible. That is why people keep having mundane and profane sex. They are seeking something more satisfying. They just don't know how to make it happen. So they keep doing the same thing over and over, hoping for different results.
Many people think "it" isn't happening because they married the wrong person, or they haven't met the right person, yet. Others hope they can develop the skill to make it happen by gaining sexual experience with many partners. But there is more to profound sex than finding the right person and having a lot of experience. Although a good physical match and sexual expertise are key aspects of mutually satisfying relationships, you can't learn to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm every time by having sex that falls short over and over.
The ability to achieve deep and profound mutual sexual satisfaction that brings a sense of peace beyond understanding is a highly refined skill that develops over time, with patience and practice. It is similar to practicing for a black belt, or learning how to dance. An investment of time and energy is involved. Commitment to the process is required.
A mutually satisfying non-genitally focused reciprocal sensual massage sets the stage for superior sex. It is important to nurture the whole person, body and soul. Consciously breathing together synchronizes awareness of the heart beats. Eye contact keeps you fully present, in the moment, while you are together. Sophisticated sensual conversation creates abiding trust. Superior penetration technique facilitates the deepest and most complete surrender possible.
When you have developed an intuitive sexual style of being together, and you completely understand each other, three little words, strategically spoken, are magic to a heart, otherwise unwilling, and therefore unable to open.
Some people are in the habit of faking orgasms. They fake it because they don't want to disappoint, and they don't know how to make it happen. During the honeymoon phase there is hope. As hope diminishes, so does the sexual passion. Eventually the passion wanes so much people stop having sex and move on to other partners. But the same people who get bored with partner sex and move on, don't get bored with masturbation and stop doing it. Why not? Orgasm is certain when self-pleasuring. There is nothing more mystical than the real thing. Coordinating a mutual simultaneous orgasm during sexual intercourse is the most profound thing any two human beings can endeavor to do together.
"When the sacred yoni opens and the amrita flows, the earth will be healed." Baba Dez Nichols
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