Intimacy is sharing something of a personal and private nature. The inherent need for intimate communion is born of the desire to heal the illusion of seperation that appears when spirit dives into womb and cloaks itself in flesh. It's the wanting to be known and accepted in light of the truth of what you are.
Sex temporarily satisfies intimate hunger by creating a sense of oneness with another via genital contact. Ultimately, however, rubbing "private parts" together in pursuit of pleasure is insufficient to resolve genuine intimate desire, which is a spiritual need.
Substituting sex for intimacy creates a vortex of diminishing return that, ultimately, extinguishes sexual desire. Sex within the context of a truly intimate relationship, on the other hand, opens a portal, through which a couple may tandemly experience bliss of an eternal nature.
This is so true. Finding the right words to talk about personal topics is a challenge for most of us. In my book, "Secrets of Love, Sex & Romance," there are two chapters on getting the conversation started.
* How to express your love in a letter
* Why talking about sex is like a foreign language--one that can be learned and enjoyed.
I just finished writing the "Intimacies" column for April 08 issue of The Good Life magazine on the topic of how to ask about your lover's sexual history. See GoodLifeMag.com to read it online in April.
Posted by: TrueIntimacies | February 26, 2008 at 07:09 AM